Relaxed rather than Collapsed

Though we are engaged in the poses, we are at the same time relaxed. We isolate our breath away from the muscular work and breath in a relaxing manner. The jaws are not clenched, the teeth are not biting, the tongue is not hard, the anus is not squeezed, etc. Neither are we in a collapsed mode where we simply let all consciousness drop down to gravity and just physically present ourselves on the mat, but with no awareness to our bodily sensations. Are we going through our daily lives in an engaged and relaxed way or simply tensed up and with no awareness to why, what and how we are doing what we are doing?